Conflict is not abuse

overstating harm, community responsibility, and the duty of repair

299 pages

English language

Published Nov. 8, 2016

ISBN:
978-1-55152-643-0
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OCLC Number:
944463836

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Conflict is not Abuse, reviewed Apr 2022

1 star

(Copied from an old twitter thread, Apr 2022)

Oof, this book is a slog to get through. Not to mention the many fundamental flaws.

For example: the whole chapter about how she believes communication is overly restrictive today is written from a place of deep fear of messing up and an inability to read social queues. Thereby doing the thing she warns about in the book: overstating harm.

I can’t say the book is written from a neurotypical perspective because I don’t know that about the author. I would say though it is written assuming a neurotypical perspective and audience.

A lot of the difficulties she describes are common among various neurodivergencies but instead of exploring that she denies these perspectives as overly sensitive.

Her insistence of in-person talking over text communication also shows a generational divide. It’s understandable that she’s not super fluent in asynchronous communication but she doesn’t …

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Subjects

  • Difference (Psychology)
  • Social psychology
  • Conflict management
  • Social conflict