Not all aces have been welcoming of people like Cara. Members of the ace community, especially in early years, rejected disabled aces completely, insisting that they would delegitimize asexuality and make it impossible to prove that asexuality is not related to (or caused by) disability and sickness. Even the efforts to add the asexual exception to the DSM ended up being subtly ableist by focusing on how happy aces are. "Rather than challenging stigma against both mental illness and asexuality, it seeks instead to rid asexuality of the stigma of mental illness," writes Wake Forest gender studies scholar Kristina Gupta. "Such normalizing tactics may come at the cost of intersectional analyses and coalitional possibilities."

— Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen (Page 105)